Parenthood brings joy, love, and discovery, but it can also bring worry, exhaustion, and emotional overwhelm. Many parents experience feelings of anxiety or sadness at some stage in their early parenting journey. These emotions are completely normal, but when they persist or start to affect everyday life, it’s important to seek support and remember you’re not alone.
Understanding postnatal depression and anxiety
It’s estimated that around 1 in 10 mothers and 1 in 20 fathers experience postnatal depression. It often appears within the first year after birth, but symptoms can surface later too, especially during key milestones such as returning to work or preparing for nursery.
Postnatal depression can look different for everyone, but common signs include:
- Persistent sadness or emptiness
- Loss of interest or enjoyment
- Difficulty bonding with your baby
- Changes in sleep or appetite
- Feelings of guilt, hopelessness, or anxiety
Postnatal anxiety often overlaps, bringing worries that feel hard to switch off, “Am I doing enough?”, “What if something happens?”, or “Will my child be okay without me?”. These thoughts can become especially strong when parents begin thinking about handing their child’s care to someone else for the first time.
The emotional leap of starting nursery
Transitioning from full-time care at home to nursery life can be one of the biggest emotional milestones for parents. Even if you know your child will be safe and cared for, it’s completely natural to feel anxious, this is an act of love, after all.
You might find yourself worrying about:
- How your child will settle without you
- Whether they’ll eat or nap properly
- How they’ll be comforted if they’re upset
- If they’ll form secure bonds with new adults
These are universal worries. Every loving parent feels them to some degree. The goal isn’t to eliminate these feelings, but to learn ways to manage them compassionately.
Ways to soothe parental anxiety
Talk openly about how you feel
Share your thoughts with someone you trust, a partner, friend, GP, or health visitor. Speaking your worries aloud can make them easier to understand and manage.
Create calm, predictable routines
Children and parents find comfort in routine. Simple daily rhythms, like consistent nap times or quiet morning rituals, can bring a sense of control and calm.
Practice short separations
If you’re preparing for nursery, start with brief separations. A walk while a partner or relative looks after your child can help both of you build confidence gradually.
Stay connected, but present
Many nurseries now use secure family apps to share updates, photos, and milestones. Use these to stay informed, but try to give yourself permission to step back and trust the process.
Look after yourself, too
Small acts of self-care, a cup of tea, a walk, a good chat, can make a big difference. Rest is not indulgent; it’s essential for emotional balance.
Normalise your feelings with others
Join local parent groups, online communities, or baby sessions where you can meet others in the same boat. Simply hearing “me too” can lift an enormous weight.
Where to find professional support
If your feelings of anxiety or sadness persist or become overwhelming, please reach out for professional help. Early intervention makes a real difference.
- GP or Health Visitor: Your first point of contact for assessment and support.
- NHS Talking Therapies: Free, confidential support for anxiety and depression.
- Mind (mind.org.uk): Information and emotional support.
- PANDAS Foundation (pandasfoundation.org.uk): Dedicated support for perinatal mental health.
- DadPad App & Dads Matter UK: Tailored guidance for fathers and co-parents.
Final thoughts
Every parent’s journey is different. Whether you’re navigating the fog of postnatal depression, the jitters of separation anxiety, or simply the ups and downs of new parenthood, remember, your feelings are valid, temporary, and supported by a community of others who understand.
You are not alone.
You are doing enough.
And you’re doing better than you think.